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Follow these 3 Simple Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem

Are you really suffering from low self-esteem? Feeling good about ourselves is something no one can give to us. They can help, but it is up to us to do the rest.

It’s really heartbreaking to know that in this time and age, people still believe that they are not good enough and still feel sorry for themselves.

Anyhow,  if you are suffering from low self-esteem, cheer up! Here are 3 simple tips to help you improve your self-esteem.

1.  Visualize Colorful Thoughts

Yep! Stop having dark and dull thoughts!

We spend a consumable amount of time having thoughts about ourselves that are not true.

Dark, dull, cloudy, and stormy thoughts.

To illustrate:

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Someone like me? So what is wrong with you that makes it so unbelievable that he wants to date you?

Research reveals that the words and sentences we use when referring to ourselves are positive signs of low-self esteem.

Stop having dark thoughts about yourself.  Starting right now! Think beautiful, cheerful, and enlightening thoughts.

For example, feel the difference below using the same images above:

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Visualize colorful thoughts. It’s healthier to have beautiful thoughts. You will enjoy life better!

2.  Start Saying No Without Feeling Guilty

Individuals suffering from low-self esteem tend to give away too many yeses. Learn to say no, and mean it.

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Saying no does not stop people from liking you. Furthermore, people love to take advantage of “yes-persons.”

Don’t get this twisted now. Genuinely helping someone is completely different from always saying yes.  Saying yes to everything someone asks you to do means that you are not doing it to be helpful but rather to be accepted.

To build your self-esteem don’t agree to things that you do not enjoy doing. Start saying no, and when you do, don’t feel guilty!

3.  Save Your Apologies

Imagine this…

You are in the supermarket, you need to ask a question, you approach the cashier, and the first two words are:

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Why are you apologizing to ask a question? You haven’t done anything to be sorry for.  Low self-esteem people tend to apologize for everything, wrong and right.

While apologies are important, do not use them inappropriately. To build your self-esteem, stop apologizing over excessively. Save your apologies for when you make a mistake that is deserving of an apology.

Remember to build your self-esteem, you must:

  1. have colorful thoughts
  2.  start saying no, without feeling guilty
  3.  stop apologizing for nothing

I would love to hear your thoughts, drop me a line below!

 

 

Wise Ethical Choices And You

Wise Ethical Choices

Do you consider yourself to be an ethical person? Do your speech, behavior, and action promote good ethics? Do you make wise ethical choices?

Ethical Choices

Who Is An Ethical Person?

An ethical person is someone who can differentiate between right from wrong, honest from dishonest, fair from unfair, and acts accordingly.

Without a doubt, we all do our best to be ethical people, but sometimes we falter and make unwise ethical choices. But heck, we are just humans, isn’t it?

However, not because we are imperfect people, we are going to run around acting carelessly or go about making unwise decisions. Not at all!

Bear in mind that we are responsible for own ethical choices, and we should exercise these choices with empathy.

How Should We Act?

Therefore, let us demonstrate in our conduct respect for each other and make sure that our opinions and our feelings are always truthful and honest.

In fact, let us promote ethical living through the choices we make each day and make Continue reading Wise Ethical Choices And You

I Have the Guts To Be Who I Really Am, Do You?

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Every Thursday I randomly select a post to re-blog that deals with real issues. This week we join Martha as she speaks about who she really is. Please show her some love by visiting her blog, read and comment. Thank you as usual for your support.

Martha L Shaw - Poet, Writer, Author, Artist

Seriously, do you?  Do you really?  You don’t have to answer out loud.  Most people won’t.  I know.  I’ve spent most of my life being looked at strangely.  Why?  Because I don’t cavein.  Most people who have put me down made caving in and doing what others expected into an art form.

 I don’t much care if you think I’m ugly.  I don’t think I am.  I sure do not care if you think working hard is for fools.  Shoot, if that’s the definition of a fool, I’m proud of it.  As a kid, there were plenty of people my age running away from home.  I never even considered it.  I loved my family.  I had friends who were fun to be with.  Know what?  They loved my family as well.  They loved to be at my house. 

There were always people more popular…

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Acceptance

Source of Inspiration

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Love—the ability
to accept another
just as he is.

Acceptance, key to serenity
C ompassion makes acceptance possible
C aring includes sharing
E ach person is part of the whole
P unish not with your silence
T hankfulness makes love grow
A ccept differences
N othing is more important than love
C herish all our Creator has made
Each one needs and deserves our love

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