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Just Breathe

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Sometimes that’s all we need to do…just breathe!

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Follow these 3 Simple Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem

Are you really suffering from low self-esteem? Feeling good about ourselves is something no one can give to us. They can help, but it is up to us to do the rest.

It’s really heartbreaking to know that in this time and age, people still believe that they are not good enough and still feel sorry for themselves.

Anyhow,  if you are suffering from low self-esteem, cheer up! Here are 3 simple tips to help you improve your self-esteem.

1.  Visualize Colorful Thoughts

Yep! Stop having dark and dull thoughts!

We spend a consumable amount of time having thoughts about ourselves that are not true.

Dark, dull, cloudy, and stormy thoughts.

To illustrate:

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Someone like me? So what is wrong with you that makes it so unbelievable that he wants to date you?

Research reveals that the words and sentences we use when referring to ourselves are positive signs of low-self esteem.

Stop having dark thoughts about yourself.  Starting right now! Think beautiful, cheerful, and enlightening thoughts.

For example, feel the difference below using the same images above:

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Visualize colorful thoughts. It’s healthier to have beautiful thoughts. You will enjoy life better!

2.  Start Saying No Without Feeling Guilty

Individuals suffering from low-self esteem tend to give away too many yeses. Learn to say no, and mean it.

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Saying no does not stop people from liking you. Furthermore, people love to take advantage of “yes-persons.”

Don’t get this twisted now. Genuinely helping someone is completely different from always saying yes.  Saying yes to everything someone asks you to do means that you are not doing it to be helpful but rather to be accepted.

To build your self-esteem don’t agree to things that you do not enjoy doing. Start saying no, and when you do, don’t feel guilty!

3.  Save Your Apologies

Imagine this…

You are in the supermarket, you need to ask a question, you approach the cashier, and the first two words are:

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Why are you apologizing to ask a question? You haven’t done anything to be sorry for.  Low self-esteem people tend to apologize for everything, wrong and right.

While apologies are important, do not use them inappropriately. To build your self-esteem, stop apologizing over excessively. Save your apologies for when you make a mistake that is deserving of an apology.

Remember to build your self-esteem, you must:

  1. have colorful thoughts
  2.  start saying no, without feeling guilty
  3.  stop apologizing for nothing

I would love to hear your thoughts, drop me a line below!

 

 

Faraway From Me

Faraway From Me

Just like that you left

and I keep searching

looking for you

searching for that land

imagining that world

staring in the distance

where you’ve gone

and then I wonder to myself

if it’s faraway.

Is it far across the sea?

or is it up above the galaxy?

to know your secret place

to see your missing face

would be so heavenly to me

but you have gone

gone

faraway from me…

(In remembrance of my brother, may his soul RIP)

 

 

 

 

No Regrets/Happy New Year 2017

I can hear the roosters crowing in my backyard and I am smiling because maybe it is the last time that I will hear them crowing for 2016. Maybe it’s my last smile too for 2016, who can tell?

Anyhow, I have no regrets about 2016, and I have no resolutions for 2017. I will just continue walking on the road that I was on in 2016, and continue removing the heavy obstacles from my pathway as I travel along my journey. Continue reading No Regrets/Happy New Year 2017

Who Said We Can’t Party On A Thursday?

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The place to be tomorrow is right here, with me!!! Bring a friend, bring a post, and your well wishes. And guess what? You can ask me ANY QUESTION…isn’t that great? So write this date down and prepare to come and rock to some sweet Christmas reggae music…yeah man, we gonna have a blast!

OK, back to normal programming and I’ll see you tomorrow on the party floor. Spread the news because this party will not be normal!

Who said we can’t party on a Thursday!

Love Always…Dehan

A Note to My Virtuous Friends

Are we trying to get into heaven by riding the coattails of those we shove?

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“To do good is noble. To tell others to do good is even nobler…and much less trouble.” ~Mark Twain

8a8d21f5d0288aee5008a8630f086eda_400x400Many of us who are writers andteachers hope, I suspect, to establish our own nobility by telling others how to behave.* Yet most of us are at least part-time purveyors of the sins we condemn, and spotty practitioners of the virtues we extol.

A. A. Milne, creator of Winnie the Pooh and real life daddy of Christopher Robin, was reportedly a cold and distant father. Beloved Victorian moralist Charles Dickens summarily dumped his wife of twenty years for a 17 year old actress.

Are we trying to get into heaven by riding the coattails of those we shove?

The Apostle Paul admonishes us to “be a model” to those we teach, “both in word and in deed, in love, faith, and purity.” “Live there,” he says, “be that person…so that…

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NEVER STOP PUSHING

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You want to change your life for the better, so you have decided to make a radical change. A change that will transform your life in a positive way. You believe that your time has come…it’s now your time to shine.

What Did You Do?

You shared your intentions with some friends and family members.  They told you it would not work, and that it’s a bad idea. They even went as far to tell you that you were too old and you would not make it. Or maybe they tried to persuade you to wait because you were young and still has time. You became fearful, thinking that maybe they were right. So you played with your thoughts, you became troubled and kept wondering what to do. Continue reading NEVER STOP PUSHING

I Have the Guts To Be Who I Really Am, Do You?

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Every Thursday I randomly select a post to re-blog that deals with real issues. This week we join Martha as she speaks about who she really is. Please show her some love by visiting her blog, read and comment. Thank you as usual for your support.

Martha L Shaw - Poet, Writer, Author, Artist

Seriously, do you?  Do you really?  You don’t have to answer out loud.  Most people won’t.  I know.  I’ve spent most of my life being looked at strangely.  Why?  Because I don’t cavein.  Most people who have put me down made caving in and doing what others expected into an art form.

 I don’t much care if you think I’m ugly.  I don’t think I am.  I sure do not care if you think working hard is for fools.  Shoot, if that’s the definition of a fool, I’m proud of it.  As a kid, there were plenty of people my age running away from home.  I never even considered it.  I loved my family.  I had friends who were fun to be with.  Know what?  They loved my family as well.  They loved to be at my house. 

There were always people more popular…

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