Love is Enough

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Do you know why I celebrate Valentines Day every day? Because LOVE is all that I have to give and my love is enough for the 365 days of the year. It’s bubbling over, and I just can’t keep it to myself.

If love is all that you have to give, every day of your life can be Valentine’s day too.

Our Love is always enough.

When we have genuine love for people, no matter what their race or status is, we will always have something to give:

  • a smile
  • encouragement
  • support
  • advise

When we have love, we have everything and every day can be Valentine’s Day!

Do You Talk Too Much When Conducting Business Meetings?

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Have you ever conducted a business meeting and left the meeting feeling that you talked too much?  And you didn’t give anyone else a chance to speak?

Of course, some people are natural talkers. They will talk and talk without knowing when to stop. But monopolizing your business meetings, or any meeting at all, is not good.

Your purpose is not to give a speech at a business meeting but to encourage participation and feedback.  After all, it’s a meeting and not a ceremony.

Furthermore, people attend meetings to listen and to participate. They do not want to hear one person speaking all through the meeting because they will feel as if they are not part of the team and that their input is not valuable.

So, what will you do to make sure that you do not monopolize your meetings?

Obviously, less talking! But this is easier said than done. What happens if you talk less and no one wants to talk?

Don’t worry, these simple tips below will help you to stop monopolizing your meetings.

Know what you want to say

  • Prepare notes on what you want to talk about the night before. Just as how it is important to prepare for a speech it is also important to prepare for a meeting.
  • Time yourself, and make sure you stick to your time limit.
  • Jot down answers to some of the comments that you think may arise based on the discussion topic. You don’t have to comment on all the issues, so resist the urge to do so.

Have a Clear Agenda

  • When conducting a meeting have a clear agenda to guide you on the items that you will discuss.
  • After preparing your agenda, distribute it ahead of time. You can also drop in on some of the people whose input you need; especially those who are always quiet.  Ask them what they think about the topic and let them know that you are looking forward to their input.

Encourage Participation

  • Conduct a question and answer segment to help focus their thinking. But first, make your audience feel comfortable and at ease so that when the questions and answers segment comes around they will not hesitate to participate.

Use a Round Robin Format

  • If you really believe that you talk too much in meetings, use a round robin format. This way each participant in the meeting will get a chance to speak or to voice their opinion.
  • The round robin format is a more comfortable way to get people who are shy to speak up because some people do not like to be called out in a meeting.

Key takeaway:

  • Do not monopolize your business meetings. Give others a chance to speak. Yes, it can be a hard habit to break but with practice, you can improve.
  • Prepare yourself and make sure that you encourage participation.
  • Always make your meeting something that your team is happy to attend instead of dreading to attend.

Do you monopolize your meeting? Or have you ever attend a meeting and the person in charge talks too much?

Let us talk…

Follow these 3 Simple Tips to Improve Your Self Esteem

Are you really suffering from low self-esteem? Feeling good about ourselves is something no one can give to us. They can help, but it is up to us to do the rest.

It’s really heartbreaking to know that in this time and age, people still believe that they are not good enough and still feel sorry for themselves.

Anyhow,  if you are suffering from low self-esteem, cheer up! Here are 3 simple tips to help you improve your self-esteem.

1.  Visualize Colorful Thoughts

Yep! Stop having dark and dull thoughts!

We spend a consumable amount of time having thoughts about ourselves that are not true.

Dark, dull, cloudy, and stormy thoughts.

To illustrate:

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Someone like me? So what is wrong with you that makes it so unbelievable that he wants to date you?

Research reveals that the words and sentences we use when referring to ourselves are positive signs of low-self esteem.

Stop having dark thoughts about yourself.  Starting right now! Think beautiful, cheerful, and enlightening thoughts.

For example, feel the difference below using the same images above:

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Visualize colorful thoughts. It’s healthier to have beautiful thoughts. You will enjoy life better!

2.  Start Saying No Without Feeling Guilty

Individuals suffering from low-self esteem tend to give away too many yeses. Learn to say no, and mean it.

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Saying no does not stop people from liking you. Furthermore, people love to take advantage of “yes-persons.”

Don’t get this twisted now. Genuinely helping someone is completely different from always saying yes.  Saying yes to everything someone asks you to do means that you are not doing it to be helpful but rather to be accepted.

To build your self-esteem don’t agree to things that you do not enjoy doing. Start saying no, and when you do, don’t feel guilty!

3.  Save Your Apologies

Imagine this…

You are in the supermarket, you need to ask a question, you approach the cashier, and the first two words are:

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Why are you apologizing to ask a question? You haven’t done anything to be sorry for.  Low self-esteem people tend to apologize for everything, wrong and right.

While apologies are important, do not use them inappropriately. To build your self-esteem, stop apologizing over excessively. Save your apologies for when you make a mistake that is deserving of an apology.

Remember to build your self-esteem, you must:

  1. have colorful thoughts
  2.  start saying no, without feeling guilty
  3.  stop apologizing for nothing

I would love to hear your thoughts, drop me a line below!

 

 

Are Successful People Enthusiastic?

Be Enthusiastic

People who are successful have positive feelings and eagerly approach their tasks with excitement and passion.

No matter how difficult your job is, approach it with a high level of enthusiasm.

Remember that an enthusiastic worker produces high-quality work that increases productivity.

Don’t allow negative feelings about your job to stand in the way of your success.  Psychologists say that the best way to change our negative feelings about something that we are doing is to change the way we think about our feelings.

Try to do that – change your thinking…

Enthusiasm is also contagious.

When you are enthusiastic about your job your co-workers will feel your energy and they too will start to approach their tasks with enthusiasm.

So, be passionate about what you do.

Successful people are enthusiastic people!

Do you agree?

 

xoxo ~Dehan