Some people are not very good at expressing themselves.
Is it because they do not understand that expressing themselves is about the other person and not them?
Some of them really do not care how their messages might affect others and because they are so self-centered they do not pay attention to the words that spring forth from their lips. They just do not care.
But what they fail to understand is that the moment they stop caring about other people’s feelings is the moment they stop trying to express themselves in an amicable way. Sometimes too, it is so hard to believe that their messages are sincere because it seems more of a criticism rather than sincerity.
Let’s say for example, you have a disagreement with someone and both of you are trying to work things out, but no matter what you say it seems as though the other person’s mindset is tune into negativity. So guess what that person does?
Instead of realizing that the essence of the conversation is to put an end to the disagreement, he/she will look for what was not said just to get something to vex about. So you are left feeling as though you should just shut up and keep quiet. But if you don’t talk they become more upset and if you talk they will still be upset.
So what do you do?
You might as well just keep talking because we can disagree for the rest of our lives but we can never stop talking.
People need to realize that communication is about listening and understanding instead of trying to prove who is wrong or right. In good communication we see the other person’s point of view as well as ours.
Furthermore, communication is not about YOU and I, it’s about us. So let us try to be understanding with each other, treat others the way we would like them to treat us, stop searching for what was not said and listen, listen, listen!